Rachel Dubrow, LCSW
Meet Doug Tesnow, LCPC
Tell us about what made you choose to become a therapist.
I have actually always wanted to be a therapist. I come from a really close family and friend group, each of which really value deep and intimate communication. I've always felt more comfortable with "real talk" vs "small talk". I've also seen therapy bring about great transformations within a number of people I know.
What's one thing about being a client in therapy that has helped you the most?
Being able to discuss ideas openly without judgement is huge. I'm a big believer in people's being able to tap into their "wise mind" when some of the outer noise and judgements are calmed down a bit. I believe that people have an inherent desire to thrive as they heal through their pain.
What tips do you have for people who have never been in therapy before?
It's super important that clients feel comfortable during therapy. Don't be afraid to ask a bunch of questions, take your time with what you want to discuss, and let yourself be picky about connecting with the therapist that really feels right for you!
What is your favorite analogy to use in session with clients?
Sometimes, when clients are feeling overly stressed or unmotivated, we will discuss dialing one's stress level up or down to a desired amount, which often helps us frame our next steps toward building vitality without the burden of undue pressure.
What is one of your favorite anxiety-busting techniques?
I really like asking the client what's worked best for them in the past and then brainstorming a bunch of new ones as well, so that client's have a huge supply in their anxiety-busting arsenal. I commonly suggest some simple grounding exercises and breathing techniques as well.
We've been told that you're a musician. Tell us about that!
I've played music in almost every state in the US. I play a bunch of different instruments including keyboard and clarinet and I also sing. Even during COVID, I've been able to collaborate on music with my friends over email (it's quite the feat!).
Share with us your favorite book or podcast.
Too many to name! I'm often reading new books and listening to podcasts, many dealing with somatic approaches to trauma and balancing of the autonomic nervous system.
When you're not doing therapy, how do you relax and recharge?
I love both making and listening to music, and being around trees.
Are you a coffee or tea drinker in session?
Good Earth "Sweet and Spicy Decaf tea". It's the best!